Waiting and Hoping: December 2010

Dear Friends,

Thank you so much for taking the time to get to know us. We understand that you and your family are going through a difficult time and we pray that you will be comforted and will have peace in your heart. We would like to start off with how we met... Breanna was working for a bank at the time of us meeting. Joe walked in with a friend. While we were chatting, Joe's friend cut in and asked Breanna out on a date for Joe. Apparently, Joe was taking to long to ask her out so his friend did it for him. YES! We know what you are thinking, "Why in the world would Breanna even consider going on a date with him if he couldn't ask her himself?" Well, we will let Joe answer that... To be fair, my friend jumped the gun. I was getting to it. Breanna didn't even answer right away, she made me stand in the corner of the bank while she finished helping the customers. Once she was finished with her work for a bit, she basically interviewed me, like I was applying for a job or something. Brea, do you remember the first question you asked me? Yes, I do! I asked you how old you were and then asked if you had been on a mission. When you said yes, I was sold. Oh and to be fair about the "JOB INTERVIEW", you were applying for a job. You were APPLYING to date me! During our first date we discoverd that Breanna had gone to school with Joe's cousin, which makes family gatherings fun. It is always nice when you have friends that become family. After dating a few months, we were married in the Manti, Utah Temple in August of 2000. We always knew that we wanted to start a family, but after trying to get pregnant, we realized that having a family was not going to happen the traditional way, so we began looking at our options and adoption was at the top of the list. Even though our children may not be ours biologically, we will love them just the same. We know that we are extremly blessed to get the opporunity to have a family no matter how it is created. We know this to be true because we have other adopted children in our extended families. Breanna's sister's oldest daughter was adopted. We all love her just the same as we do the other kids who were not adopted. Breanna comes from a family of three siblings, one brother who she is close to. He is fun and outgoing. She has one sister who is a bit younger, but they are still close. She has a fun and outgoing personality. Breanna also has two parents who love their children and would do anything for them. They support them in all they do. They are all very close and participate in many family activities, such as camping, fishing, and weekly family dinners. Breanna has two nieces and three nephews whom she loves to death. Joe comes from a family of seven siblings (one sister and six brothers). Even though there is only one girl, they still like to wrestle around and tease each other. His sister can hold her own. On this side of the family there are five nieces and three nephews. Joe is really close to his brothers, sister and parents. When the family is all together, there is sure to be lots of energy and fun. Joe served a mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints in the Knoxville, TN mission. Joe loves karate and anything that goes with it. He has a black belt in Kishindo which is a Japanese style of karate. Joe loves collecting guns, swords and knives. He likes to go camping, hiking, 4-wheeling and just spending time with family and friends. Joe is also really good at remodling homes. There is always a project going on at our house that keeps him busy. Joe also works construction which is where he gets some of his ideas. Breanna loves, and I do mean loves NASCAR and Dale Earnhardt Jr. She likes gymnastics and cheerleading especially the University of Utah. She loves doing crafts, but mostly enjoys scrapbooking. Breanna loves to go 4-wheeling with the family, fishing, camping, and hiking. She also loves to go on long drives up the canyon to see the pretty scenery. Breanna has her Accounting Degree, but loves the tax side of accounting the most. In fact so much so that she works very limited hours during the tax season. She is commited to being a stay at home mom once we become parents. Our hopes and dreams for our children are that we can teach them to be honest in their dealings with others. We want them to get an education. We feel that it is important that they experience family vacations, camping and sports. We want them to succeed in whatever their hopes and dreams are. It is very important to us that our children always know that they are adopted. We will tell them stories about their adoption and our experience. We want them to always know where they come from. Adoption is a very open topic in our home and with our family and we want it to stay that way. We are wanting to keep our options open for pictures, letters, emails and possible visits in the future. We will always have a blog set up that will be centered around our family and different activities. Again, our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. We hope you will find peace in your decision, whatever that might be. Best Wishes, Joe and Breanna

Thursday, December 30, 2010

Christmas prt 2

This year Joe's family was not able to have a Christmas party. Everyones schedules were just too hectic and we could not find a day that everyone was free...I did post pics in Christmas prt 1 of Joe's nieces and nephews opening up our gifts to them.

Breanna's family had their family Christmas party the day after her dad's 50th birthday party. Her grandparents came and stayed at our house for the weekend. We did a lot of shopping, eating and spending time with family.

Breanna's grandpa was enjoying playing with the great grandkids.

Our nieces and nephews on Breanna's side of the family.

This is just a couple of things we got for Christmas. We got so much more, but I just picked a couple to post here.

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Dad's 50th Birthday Party

Brea's dad turned 50 this month. Happy Birthday Dad, we love you.

This was his invitation

My mom, dad, us, & my sister, & brother in law

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

Blankets & Christmas prt 1

These are the blankets that my mom and I have been working on for Christmas for the nieces and nephews... I still have one more to add, but I have to wait until she opens it...

Saturday, December 4, 2010

Thanksgiving 2010

Breanna's Family Thanksgiving Dinner

Joe's Family Thanksgiving Dinner

Fall Happenings

Brea's mom wanted to teach our niece Elizabeth how to make clay pens, so Brea went over to help.

Halloween 2010

Our niece and nephews: Ryleigh, Trevor, Nate and Aiden

Breanna's cousins and niece:

Bailee, Kash, Autumn, and Ryliegh

Breanna's dad works for a hotel and so every once in awhile we get to go swimming.

Joe and Breanna watching as everyone else swam, although Brea did put her legs in the hot tub.

Our brother in law Troy making a "SPLASH"

Thoughts On Open Adoption

Let's be honest, open adoption was a scary term for us at first, but the more we have attended our adoption training classes, the more comfortable we have become with the possibilities of an open adoption. There are so many advantages to have an open adoption: Our child will always know who their birth family is, we will always have access to the birth families medical history, our child will always know that their birth family love them and they will never have to question that. They will always know their heritage and for us, these things are very important. Every adoption is different. Everyone has their own expectations to what they want out of their open adoption and everyone has boundries and a bottom line for they are comfortable with. For us, our bottom line is: 1. Pictures and letters often 2. Have a blog set up just for the birth family 3. Correspondance through emails 4. Calls/Text 5. Depending on the relationship we have with our birth family, we are open to possible visits. (How often is still undecided)

Waiting and Hoping